We all know that a successful project manager spends about 90 percent of their time communicating. The words we choose when communicating are very powerful. What we communicate has the power to shape behavior. Sharing your expectations improves the capabilities of your teams.
I heard the story of two frogs shortly after I took the first step on my career adventure. The story goes something like this: a group of frogs are hopping to a nearby pond when two of them fall into a deep hole in the ground. The group yells and gestures to the frogs, insisting they will never get out no matter how hard they try. The two frogs still tried and tried. One frog eventually gave up and died. The other frog was able to jump out of the hole. The successful frog was deaf and thought the other frogs were offering encouragement.
The story of the two frogs made a significant and lasting impression on me, and provided a new twist on Neale Donald Walsch’s statement, “Your thoughts create reality.” I realized that setting clear expectations with my teams was the most powerful way to deliver value. I could either help them jump to success or remain in a deep hole forever.
Expecting something is anticipating and considering something to be so probable that it is nearly certain. You may have heard of the placebo effect, but have you heard of the Rosenthal effect? Psychological studies have confirmed that expectations shape actual behavior. Do you expect your team to succeed? Then they will. Do you discuss the intended results of your project portfolio with optimism or pessimism? Your team will follow your lead. Do you want your teams to treat each other respectfully and work the plan to the best of their ability? Then expect it. Do you want to avoid surprises? Create a project environment of trust and expect open, honest, timely communication. Do you consider some team members to be smarter than others? You will treat them accordingly, regardless of their IQ.
Most of all, expect your teams to meet your expectations. Because expectations help shape people’s thoughts, I have found expectations to be the best motivator. Better than setting clear priorities (which you can expect your teams to understand and honor), better than providing clear direction (which you can expect them to shape, follow and question), and better than sharing the most impressive facts, the most comprehensive knowledge, the most proof, or any amount of recognition and rewards. All of that helps, of course. Instead, I keep my eye on the prize of setting and clearing communicating expectations.
Jan Schiller, PMP, PSM1, FLMI, is a partner with Berkshire Consulting, LLC. She specializes in revealing the path from where an organization is to where they want to be. Over the past 30 years, Jan has been focused on linking strategy to results with project management in the financial services, investment, health, beverage, learning management and life sciences industries. She has helped her clients with the adoption of project management best practices; streamlining business processes; addressing regulations; achieving competitive advantage and much more. In addition to being quoted twice in PMNetwork Magazine, she’s also discussed how to develop a PMO Project’s scope statement on Phoenix Business RadioX (podcast). Jan writes about scope, portfolio management, methodologies, and PMO.